Everyone has their bad days. Maybe you’re late for work and the trains aren’t running properly. Maybe you’ve just bought a new phone and it yet again – without a case on.
As surprising as it may sound, we live in a society that thrives on negativity. This is because when something goes wrong, we automatically assume the worst and our minds go into an all-consuming hyperdrive. If we keep on looking for what’s wrong with something, chances are, even if there’s nothing wrong with it, we’ll probably find it.
At Evolve Daily, we understand that sometimes, you just want to get mad, sulk and be negative because things aren’t going your way. However, its your choice whether or not you should let these things affect you today, or even for the rest of your life.
Here’s how you can deal with negativity. You can either:
1) Ignore it.
I’m sure it’s nice to live in a problem-free fantasy world and forget all about the problem-steeped real world. What you don’t think about won’t hurt you, right? Wrong.
2) Be consumed by it.
Another option is to spend every waking moment harping on all the bad things that’s happened to you. It’s nice to have people commiserate with you so that they can feel bad too. After all, misery loves company. Keep this attitude up and you’ll be miserable for a very long time.
3) Learn from it.
If we take every single negative experience we’ve had and treat it as a learning experience, we’d all be much wiser. Instead of immediately responding negatively, take a second or two and analyze whether each situation warrants something to get angry about. If not — keep calm and carry on!
4) Eliminate it.
If someone keeps causing problems in your life, eliminate them from your life. It takes a lot of courage to do so, but you will find that your life will be better off without them. People who cause problems for others often have issues. Some people will complain no matter how great their blessings are. Some people are simply negative.
Although it is easier said than done, there are many ways we can go about learning from negative experiences. Here’s how you can start:
1) Stop blaming others.
It’s human nature to point fingers at others when something bad happens. Take ownership of your decisions and actions. The more you blame others, the more anger and negative energy you’ll attract. Stop the negativity at its root. Deal with it, and move on.
2) Stop yourself from giving up.
Life is full of surprises. One day could be awesome and the next, horrible. All we can do is stay resilient through the toughest times. We shouldn’t give up — we should keep on trying till we’ve found the next best solution to our problems. Who knows? It might just be a complete game changer.
3) Eliminate the negativity and learn from it.
If we take every single negative experience we’ve had and treat it as a learning experience, we’d all be much wiser. Instead of immediately responding negatively, take a breath and look at what you can learn. If you can, muster up the courage to eliminate people who cause problems in your life. If someone is a problem in your life today, chances are he/she will always be. If you don’t trust someone, eliminate him/her from your life.
4) Fill your life with your favorite people and favorite activities.
One shortcut to happiness is to spend time with our favorite people doing our favorite activities. Life is too short to spend on people who cause you problems or people who bring you down.
We should always be ready to acknowledge that bad things can happen to us anytime, even if we feel they never will. By maintaining a positive attitude, rolling with the punches, and eliminating troublemakers from your life, there’s nothing that can get in our way!