So perhaps you have friends who also happen to be martial artists, or you might be dating one. If you don’t train yourself, you probably can’t relate to them and understand their love for training, or why they choose to make the gym their second home. Because of that, you might have ticked them off when you made a training-related statement or asked a question – even if it wasn’t your intention to do so in the first place!
Although you find that you’re looking out for them and ultimately mean well, some things are just better left unsaid. Today, Evolve Daily shares 5 Things You Should Never, Ever Say To A Martial Artist:
1) “You’re always busy, why not skip training today?”
When you ask this question, you probably ask it out of concern or simply because you’ve noticed that your friend or significant other has a super packed schedule. The thing is, even though it might seem like too much for you, he/she might actually like it that way! After all, there’s a good reason why he/she spends such a large amount of time training.
If you feel that it has been awhile since you last saw them, then instead of asking them to skip training, you’re better off suggesting to catch the latest blockbuster in cinemas or having dinner at your favorite Japanese restaurant. Trust us, they will carve out the time for you!
2) “Why can’t you just have one burger? It won’t kill you”
Of course having a burger won’t kill you, but it can contribute to poorer performance in the gym. This is because processed, high-calorie foods offer very little nutrition and also add unwanted inches to the waistline. As your martial artist buddy/sweetheart cares about his/her performance in training, there’s no doubt that he/she will want to fuel up with nutritious food that will actually benefit the body.
Because martial artists are human too, there will definitely be times when they crave for that pizza or cake, which is why cheat meals exist. So don’t worry, your friends are definitely not missing out too much.
3) “It’s the weekend! Come on, you need to live a little”
While your idea of a fun weekend might consist of sleeping in, brunch, binge watching your favorite TV show and then a night out at the club, it could be different for your friends who train. As weekends are the only free days of the week, of course they would gladly spend it training and becoming better martial artists.
So before you judge your friends and write them off as having “no life” because they’re at the gym all weekend, think again: training could be their favorite way to have fun and unwind.
4) “Since you love martial arts, you must be a super violent person”
Because we sometimes let what we see on TV shape our perception and views on certain things, people tend to have the misconception that martial arts is violent. After all, on the surface, it appears to revolve around two people going all out and hitting each other.
The thing is, there’s really so much more to martial arts than meets the eye – which is why you shouldn’t assume that all your martial artist pals have violent tendencies! In fact, martial arts actually cultivates peace and also comes with a set of valuable life lessons that you’ll learn along the way.
5) “You don’t even compete. What’s the point of training so hard?”
Competition may or may not be a part of your friend’s martial arts journey or end goal. However, just because he/she doesn’t wish to compete, it doesn’t mean that he/she can’t train hard and try to get the most out of every training session. After all, most martial artists tend to work towards getting into the best shape of their lives and to ultimately improve by 1% every day. So don’t write off your friend’s efforts just because he/she isn’t a competitor! At the end of the day, he/she is merely doing his/her best to crush those goals – so why not just be supportive?
We’re pretty sure that your martial artist friends/significant other would like you to join them at the gym – so why not do that and see what happens? Perhaps you’d then be able to avoid subconsciously saying these things!